Adam and Eve never married but they are loved for being the epitome of love. If Romeo and Juliet would have married their love would not have been ETERNAL too. So the moral of the story is marriage curtails space and invites responsibilities and a live-in relation is the one which has commitment without questions and sex without restrictions.
This popular ideology of the west has also effected the east. The Indian values of husband is god and love begins after marriage may not sound absurd with present situation and scenario. There are conflicting views on this issue. My mother would definitely oppose me to be in such relations but may be my friends wont. And so is the case with Maharashtra’s government.
According to the government the section 125 of the CrPC needs to be altered. They intend to change the definition of the term “wife” to help the females who live with a man for a considerably “LONG TIME”. Although it would be on the discretion of the courts to decide what would be called the reasonably long time. This will give the sexual partners and so called other women to claim alimony from their spouse equivalent.
On one hand it would help the women who have no idea about their husband’s First marriage and those who are ditched by their boy friends after sexual exploitation on the other hand it may encourage BIGAMY and ADULTERY. The legal binding to the illegal intimacy would make it equivalent to marriage. So why not marry and have social acceptance too?
Well people may have different opinions about this controversial topic. According to me the merits balance the demerits. A 24 year old girl may need as much as security from her boy friend as 42 year old wife from her husband. This may be a step to bring the generations closer and make the youth responsible.
The drawback lies in its illucidity of words. IF REASONABLY LONG PERIOD then why not define it? Other concern is about the extramarital affairs and polygamy. Wont the law do justice to one lady but ruin the whole family of another? Is it making polygamy and adultery legal? All these questions demand an answer…. The answer that may be judge the validity of the issue.
Posted by rameshraju on May 26, 2009 at 6:52 am
The strength of Indian family system lies in its beautiful culture and its marriage system. Besides domestic violence, High salaries, Women empowerment, growth of liberty, and western culture have also increased the divorce cases among the youth.
Live in relationship (also called high-tech adultery) kills Indian culture. It destroys the standard family system and society. Live in relationship does not need commitment and sacriment. It is free of reliogion, caste and creed. It is laid on the foundations of fashionable life style, money and liberty. There is no concept of husband and wife, and no proper blood relations. It is a conditional relationship. It is very easy to dissove and is very fragile. Hence live in relationships may break at ny point of time, even after conceiving children. Hence live in relationship by any means cannot bulid secured society.
Marriage is the only system that can bulid safe and secured society and family system. Marriage is a forever sacriment that is built up on the pillars of religions, culture, traditions etc. The love and commit in marriage life is very deep. Relatively it is difficult to dissolve. The only way to prevent domestic violence and dowry cases is to propery educate men morally and ethically right from their boyhood days, and bring up girls traditionally with religious beliefs.
Posted by steveiryans on June 1, 2009 at 10:51 am
I frankly loved what you have written, its like my views written by you.
I am myself in a living relationship from last 3 years and feel that its all about one’s perception. anyways thanks for writing such a wonderful post.
Posted by Shray Agarwal on June 27, 2009 at 9:14 am
I sincerely feel that Live In Relationships are the most happening things one can do in life. I have been trying to convince my girlfriend for last year or so.. but then she has all those fundas..
I will make her read this blog, and lets see if it works. If it works, i will send you 500 Rs cheque for sure LOL
Any Advices.. Please comment back, i will read..
Posted by meghnaatnliu on June 28, 2009 at 6:11 pm
hey shray.. thanks for the sweet reward.. i hope you and your gf have all the goodluck in life…. You may work out a way which convinces both of you equally…